As a woman who has both been single and in a relationship of Valentines Day, I have never seen why this one day of the year is so special. I understand that it is nice to be appreciated by your loved ones, but isn’t it so generic to only be shown an appreciation on a single day that is not in any way special from any other one of the year. Valentine’s Day, has no real significant meaning to your life in the sense, it is not a milestone, but a created commercial ploy. You are pressured by society into buying gifts and eating out, just because it is a social tradition.
You have to think to yourself, are you really celebrating your personal relationship or are you be pushed into believing you are.
“If you argue with your significant other about the same simple things, would you prefer for both of you to work on this problem in order to make your relationship stronger; or for that one day of the year where you bury your head in the sand.”
Even the history of Valentine’s Day is obscure, clouded by many legends. For it was not until the 14th century in which Chaucer associated the Christian feast day with love. Over the centuries, the holiday evolved, and by the 18th century, gift-giving and exchanging handmade cards on Valentine’s Day had become common in England. These handmade cards spread to the American colonies but they did not become widespread until the 1850s, when Esther A. Howland, began mass-producing them. This being the first signs of commercialisation of the day of romance and love and why is became so popular. Today, of course, the holiday has become a booming commercial success. According to the Greeting Card Association, 25% of all cards sent each year are valentines. So in order for this industry to survive, our culture will continue to pressure us into believing that we need to do certain things on this day; buy chocolates, flowers, cards etc. Hence the day loses its meaning, it does not pay respect to the strength of people’s relationships, but instead every person gets lost within the industry.
“Do not be mistaken, if you want a special day of the year to celebrate your relationship then perhaps a day like Valentine’s day is for you; as sometimes the flow of life can distract from the important things.”
It must also make you think, why on one day of the year should we be appreciated? Shouldn’t every day of the year have a sort of appreciation to it. If you argue with your significant other about the same simple things, would you prefer for both of you to work on this problem in order to make your relationship stronger; or for that one day of the year where you bury your head in the sand. Is it better to have a life partner that you appreciate every day, and to remind them of this (as life is testing), or a day which it is a commercially pushed invention?
I know which one I would chose. Do not be mistaken, if you want a special day of the year to celebrate your relationship then perhaps a day like Valentine’s day is for you; as sometimes the flow of life can distract from the important things. Just bear in mind while your celebrating this, what is the reason for which you are doing it. Remind yourselves what is important, a single day or your entire relationship.